


Redefining civil marriage would change its meaning for everyone. All these factors are already working their way into the constitutive conventions which determine what is appropriate and expected within a conventional marriage and transforming its significance." Rather they will be transformed into a somewhat different social form, which responds to the fact that it is one of several forms of bonding, and that bonding itself is much more easily and commonly dissoluble. If these changes take root in our culture then the familiar marriage relations will disappear. They will change the character of that family. They will not be confined to adding new options to the familiar heterosexual monogamous family. Prominent Oxford philosopher Joseph Raz, no friend of the conjugal view, agrees: "ne thing can be said with certainty. Revisionists agree that it matters what California or the United States calls a marriage, because this affects how Californians or Americans come to think of marriage. It does so by what it prohibits-you might think less of drinking if it were banned, or more of marijuana use if it were allowed-but also by what it approves.

For the law affects our ideas of what is reasonable and appropriate. We all take cues from cultural norms, shaped by the law.
